September 14th, 2008. I am now thirty-three years of age.
The morning wakes, lightening my spirits and rekindling most of my energy. We’re now rested and ready to head out for 1770/Agnes Waters. Amy and I pack up our things and walk down to the small breakfast/coffee bar. Apparently they have famous pancakes so I treat myself. Ames opts out, choosing instead a soymilk smoothie. Mmmm…Yummy!
The wild berry pancakes soon arrive with three scoops of vanilla ice cream on top. Now that’s what I call a birthday breakfast! (Not the smartest idea though given my weak intestinal fortitude). After saying a quick goodbye to the beach, and the kangaroos, we made our way north, through Childers and Bundaberg.
After two-and a half hours of peaceful easy driving, we arrived in 1770/Agnes Waters. If I was doing a well-researched historical account through our Australian adventures I would probably mention here the significance that the year 1770 had on this small surfside, pseudo-hippie town – but I’m not. I have no idea other than to assume it had something to do with Captain Cook whose caravan park we stayed in for two nights.
The park was spacious and well tended to. We chose a site surrounded by thick forest to the rear, within a stone’s throw of the path that led a few hundred meters down to the beach. There was a nice little pool that overlooked another edge of the forest and the yawning coastline down below.
We tended to the usual caravan arrival routine before setting out down the path to the beach. It was nearly entirely deserted. Only a few souls sauntered by us as we lay there soaking in the warm September goodness. The sea looked a little more precarious than at Woodgate but still warm and inviting; that is until we noticed hundreds of jellyfish scattered across the shore. There were of course, no lifeguards manning this beach with their instructive system of flags that told when and where you could swim. Only a tattered sign that we passed as we crossed the path to the beach that warned of stinging jellies from November to April. It was only September but why take the risk when there’s a refreshing (read safe!) little pool only moments away back at the campsite.
Walking back, we got chatting about one silly thing or another. Lost in thought and staring at the sand in front of me with my cap pulled low over my eyes, I didn’t see the large branch that hung low across our pathway. Smack! Right in the forehead! Knocked me hard enough that I could feel my teeth knash together and was happy that I hadn’t knocked myself out cold or bitten my tongue in half. I felt a little stupid that I hadn’t noticed it on the way to the beach and that I wasn’t paying attention enough on the way back to avoid it. I commented to Ames that that was one way to take your “birthday bumps”.
Back at the site and hot from our sojourn down at the beach, we each got changed into our proper swimwear – some more discreetly than others!
We made it into the cool refreshing water as magic hour struck; the long shadows beginning to make their way across the pool. I tormented Amy for a while with my wrestling prowess, demonstrating such classic textbook techniques as the bodyslam, the back suplex and the jumping head kick. After the sun began to disappear behind the clouds, we showered and changed for a nice, romantic dinner at the campsite restaurant, The Deck. As strange as it was to find that little restaurant built around back, it was stranger still to find, upon our arrival right at five o’clock that it was indeed a fine dining restaurant. What a wonderful birthday treat!
On the day I left home for the airport my Mom had slipped me a card with explicit instructions that it was not to be opened until my birthday. First thing I had done when I woke up earlier that day was to reach for that card and the comfort of home and family. Within her kind loving words were tucked a few traveler’s cheques, so I decided that being we were on a budget and that we’d likely not see another dinner of that ilk for quite some time, we’d treat ourselves to something special. A romantic night out of good wine, great food and amazing company –not to mention a breathtaking view!
The Deck was owned and operated by an Austrian couple. He worked his passion for food in the kitchen while she gave the warm and hospitable service that catered perfectly to the demands of that small but spacious room. The crab and pumpkin ravioli that we shared as an entrée (aka appetizer) was not particularly to either of our liking but everything else, from top to bottom made for an exceptionally memorable night.
We ordered a wonderful bottle of Shiraz from the Maclaren Vale in New South Wales. It was so delightful that we vowed to remember it should we encounter it again in one of the local shops. Unfortunately, it’s three days later and we’ve already forgotten it! Perhaps we’ll recognize it should ever we see the label and then we can once again sing it’s high praises.
After the ravioli came the mains. We debated and deliberated for some time before Amy chose the catch of the day and I the grain-fed ribeye steak with frites and steamed vegetables. For me, it was my first real meat dish (ground meat pies don’t count!) in the past 3 ½ months and after a few unfamiliar bites I found it to be very delicious – a great way to be reintroduced. As for Amy, well she was over the moon. From the moment it arrived it looked spectacular and with her first bite I thought she might be gone for good. With every bite that followed she could not stop raving about how amazing it was; fresh Mackerel caught locally just off the reef that day, pan-seared rare and thinly sliced with a touch of soy and ginger dressing drizzled over top. There was a fresh avocado sauce and boiled potato also plated with it but those were never given a second glance. That fish ruled the night. (Thanks Mom!)
I went off to get the camera from the van so that we might have a photograph to commemorate the wonderful end to a wonderful birthday spent together. I returned in absolute fits of laughter. As I tried regaining my composure for fear of disturbing the other, shall I say more elderly and refined guests, Amy suspiciously eyed me and waited for an explanation but I could not contain the tears of sheer silliness as they poured forth from within me. Even our lovely hostess wondered what had gotten hold of me.
This is where our mother’s should stop reading; all that follows is purely immature potty humour; boyish and silly and ridiculous fun.
I entered the men’s bathroom on my way back from the van and stood at the urinal. I’d had a few beers that day and shared a bottle of red wine so I was lose, relaxed and very at ease as I began to do what people do in those places. I had quickly scanned the room upon entering and although there were many stalls for showers and toilets had decided that it was late and the place was empty so I could just let it all hang out there. And so, I farted.
Flatulence is nearly always a nerve-wracking experience when exhibited around others. It’s a naturally reoccurring phenomenon created by an accumulation of gas in the body that is deemed inappropriate, rude and distasteful in modern “civilized” society. I’ll be the first to admit a disdain for its foul and pungent ways in public but when I’m alone, in those private moments no one likes to mention or talk about at dinner parties, find it to be quite an enjoyable, if not cathartic, experience of digestive relief. They come in all shapes and sizes and, as we all can attest to, can also be experienced in a vast array of disarming stenches. The one that escaped as I stood there that night, reflecting upon the day that passed, was a high-pitched and odorless bastard whose sound was so shrill that I swear it woke every dog in that caravan park from its’ once-so-peaceful slumber. It held a pitch unlike anything I had ever heard before, jumping from one tight-assed octave to the next towards such a resounding crescendo that I was shaken abruptly from my thoughts; horrified yet astounded at the work I had created. Simultaneously, as at long last the triumphant release subsided and I considered the embarrassing delight that would surely bewitch me were I to find I were not alone in that moment, a man’s voice emerged from one of the stalls behind me.
Deep and clearly distraught at having been trapped behind that bathroom door during my foul display, he exclaimed, “Fuck me!” with such incredible disgust, and disbelief that I burst into tears of fitful laughter, innocent and pure – okay, maybe not really so innocent or pure – and replied, “Sorry Mate! I had no other place to put it!”
There are three reasons that I can think of as to why this seemed to incredibly funny and I apologize here for drawing it out even further but unless you were there it will most likely never be as funny as it was in that moment. Surely, you know what I mean. Anyway, back to the three reasons.
Reason #1: I had been riding the ups and downs of a heavy emotional rollercoaster for the past few days and needed to release some stress.
Reason #2: Ames had once told me that as soon as a man passes gas in front of the woman he loves things have clearly gotten far too comfortable and inevitably start heading downhill. I had been wary about this, especially living in such close quarters 24-7 that I had been holding “it” in for days.
Reason #3: It was a completely, utterly and absolutely comical encounter between one man who thought he was alone and another who was imprisoned in his own private shame behind him.
Eventually I managed to recount my silly little tale to Ames, sharing the contagion of my laughter. We ate crème brule and retired to our caravan home still laughing at the fun we’d had that day.
Recalling my 33rd birthday brought back all the joy that I experienced and made me smile and laugh again which is why I wanted to journal it here, and so I apologize to anyone who took the time to read this far.
When the hands of time draw their lines against my face and my memories perhaps begin to fade, I want to be able to remember all of the different levels of joy and pleasurable peace alongside the painful hardships that I have encountered in my life. I want to recount the glories and triumphs as much as the silly little shames and ridiculous feelings of guilt I might have put on myself along the way. It may seem unnecessary and self-indulgent to some of you, but it’s the process of how I move through such things in order to learn from them and grow.
For me, birthdays signify what I imagine New Years means for most people; it’s a chance to recount, reflect and reassess the past year of life that I’ve been blessed to live on this earth and to consider what kind of man I want to continue to grow towards becoming in the days, months and years that might still lie ahead. It’s a time to grieve the beautiful things I have loved and lost along the way as well as to rejoice at all of the beautiful things that exist in my world at the moment.
I experienced many great depths and distant heights this past year. I completed my album, an epically ambitious and challenging feat of individual growth and achievement that I’m incredibly proud of. I faced old fears and regrets head on and did my best to move through them. After 20 years of faithful service, I left the restaurant industry, preserving most of my integrity and some of my dignity that it had begun to take from my spirit. I respected and appreciated my friends more and spent more time with them and, in turn, found that they appreciated and respected me; celebrating with me the sweeping changes I was setting out upon this world to experience. I fortunate to be able to spend quality time with my Pops every week, nurturing that relationship and developing close friendship between us. I got to witness the resurgence of joy and success in my Mom’s life as her strength, power and wisdom reached new heights, her spirit continuing to also heal and grow. I spent nearly the entire summer at “The Lake”, reconnecting with my loving family there and getting to know each of them again and for the first time. I said goodbye to things in my life that I no longer needed; the possessions that helped keep me distracted and committed to a solitary and comfortably controlled lifestyle. I began to live more with less. I let go of the hurtful memories of relationships gone by and moved closer towards the woman I love. I took myself on a leap of faith; trusting that when I put my life back in the hands of the gods that I might begin to experience the type of freedom I had been longing for. I arrived in a distant part of this world to be reunited with Amy in hopes of beginning our life together in earnest.
I am ready to experience my thirty-third year of life on earth in a new and exhilarating light.
So, as I say goodbye to 32, I’m reminded of something my friend and mentor Mr. Daniel Quinn once said to me as I sat on his couch, manhandling one of the small toys that were scattered across his coffee table.
He said, “You don’t stop having fun when you get old. You get old when you stop having fun!”
From Here To There,
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